Her Journey Told: A Discussion of Atlas of the Heart with Beth Shaha, Part 2
Sandy and Certified Master Life Coach, Beth Shaha continue the discussion of Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown. This discussion focuses on the what you feel when you start to compare yourself to others and how it can impact your mental fitness.
00:35 Master Certified Life Coach Beth Shaha sits in for part two of the discussion on the Brene Brown book, “Atlas of the Heart”
2:00 Beth gives a detailed synopsis of the book to open the show
4:00 Beth and Sandy review envy and jealousy as defined in the book, connecting their own experiences for better understanding of this new definition
10:27 The conversation pivots to a broader discussion – the hard work of properly identifying emotions and working with them in order to grow
14:18 Sandy and Beth discuss ‘when things don’t go as planned’ through the lens of the COVID-19 pandemic
24:22 Beth quotes Brene Brown on setting expectations – “The more significant your expectations are, the more significant the disappointment is.”
28:41 Beth opens up about “the language of the human experience – dialing in, examining it, expressing it, and having the courage and the vulnerability to bring it forward.”
34:25 Sandy and Beth discuss Chapter 4: The Places We Go When It’s Beyond Us
38:02 The conversation pivots to how awe-inducing events or seeing the world can be a method for personal change and growth
44:24 Beth and Sandy talk about the differences between confusion, curiosity, interest and surprise
50:02 Sandy asks the question, what are some ways to explore getting to know yourself better?
57:22 Beth shares her contact info with the audience noting the value of life coaches
Her Journey Told: A Discussion of Atlas of the Heart with Beth Shaha, Part 1
Certified Master Life Coach, Beth Shaha joins us in this multi-part series to break down best selling book Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown. This book has been referred to as the bible for how to understand and communicate your feelings and emotions. Beth highlights key points and how they apply in everyday life.
Taking chances and finding the life you want with Kris Perelmutter
Join us on a journey with Kris Perelmutter to learn how she found the courage to take chances and live the life she always wanted. She will share the struggles along the way and how she recognized her toxic environments and found the strength to change her situation.
Guests Social Media Links:
Company’s Website: https://www.wyldercollective.com/
Personal Website: https://www.krisdrewry.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kris-drewry-perelmutter-a3a82261/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/krisdrewry
Show Notes:
0:00 Intro
3:04 Kris shares her background and how it helped in shaping her career life that she’s living today
7:17 Kris talks about how her experience in the companies she was working for led her to start her own brand
10:51 Kris explains why it is important to reflect on oneself to find their true self and not mind what others will say
16:59 Kris also talks about why people need to give women enough credit when it comes to being a working mom
20:25 Kris talks about what keeps her going on, what keeps her mentally fit, and who are the people around her that help her with this
22:57 Kris talks about where she gets the courage to overcome the fear people have of transitioning
28:39 Kris talks about the importance of taking the time that you have and making an adventure in everything that you do
33:00 Kris explains why people need to always believe in themselves if they want to achieve something in life
35:41 Kris talks about what she is about to do next in the near future in her life
37:56 Kris talks about her writing and if she will be writing more in future
41:14 Kris shares her advice to people to guide them through the transitions in life
From Investigative Reporter to PR & Media Guru and the lessons she learned along the way
Emmy award winning journalist and entrepreneur, Christine Haas shares with us her journey to becoming an investigative reporter to ultimately leaving her profession to start her own media consultancy. She speaks openly about the circumstances driving those decisions and all the lessons she learned along the way. Christine inspires us with her wisdom and enthusiasm around the power of believing in yourself.
Guests Social Media Links:
Website: https://www.christinehaas.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Christine-Haas-310933232259775/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/christinemhaas/
0:00 Intro
0:54 Christine shares a little background of how she got into journalism as a career
3:09 Christine talks about how long she has been in the journalism career and how she even became an investigative reporter
7:08 Christine talks about how she is using her expertise to help her clients in Haas Communication grow their businesses
9:47 Christine talks about where she got the courage to leave one career to go and start her own company
12:00 Christine talks about what gave her the strength to get through a divorce and at the same time starting a company
15:05 Christine talks about her success in business and what she contributes that success to
17:06 Christine talks about the importance of always believing in yourself and stop criticizing yourself
19:04 Christine talks about how being in the public eye also impacted her after leaving her career and starting a business
21:33 Christine talks about some of the obstacles that she faced along the way before she became successful
26:20 Christine talks about what mental fitness means to her and some of the things she does to stay mentally fit and stay positive
31:22 Christine talks about the importance of resilience and continually doing the things that help you succeed regardless of what people say
33:42 Christine talks about accountability and why it is important to hold yourself accountable for things
35:00 Christine shares pieces of advice to people that are going through hard times to motivate them to keep on working hard
Erin Washington finds balance with Squats & Margaritas
Erin Washington shares with us her incredible story of discovering her best self mentally and physically once she changed her definition of healthy. In this episode, Erin shares how she went through this process and found her purpose in sharing her journey with others.
Guests Social Media Links:
Website: https://www.squatsandmargaritas.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-washington-627a608/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/squatsandmargaritas/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Squats-and-Margaritas-312195776310189/
0:00 Intro
1:57 Erin talks about what the term healthy means to her now as opposed to when she was young
4:25 Erin talks about her book and what it is all about and some of the reasons that made her write that book
10:17 Erin talks about some of the things that got her through when she was going through dark times
12:33 Erin talks about why she hid from people that she had an eating disorder and the impact it had on her life
16:01 Erin talks about the importance of sharing your secrets with other people that you feel might be shameful
19:34 Erin also talks about the importance of asking yourself if you are being true to yourself doing what you are doing
24:04 Erin talks about why you should do what makes you happy and not be bothered by what other people say
25:44 Erin talks about her brand Squats and Margaritas, how she came up with it and what’s its purpose is
33:10 Erin talks about why people need to focus on what’s working for them instead of what’s not working for them
37:05 Erin shares her thoughts on why people should have people to listen to them and guide them through like a therapist
40:25 Erin explains why people need to be real especially when it comes to the social media and the impact it will have on other people
A Story of Fortitude, Purpose & Joy
Lauri Burns & Peter Olsen share with us the amazing journey of how they survived and thrived despite their horrific childhoods, how they found purpose and joy helping others like them, and how their lives divinely intersected. They walk us through their discovery of how their experiences should have left them wanting to quit life but ultimately gave them purpose and joy.
Guests Social Media Links:
Lauri Burns
Website: https://theteenproject.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LauriBurnsTeenProject/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/theteenproject
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theteenprojectca/
Peter Olsen
Website: https://www.camdennewjournal.co.uk/article/arsenal-fan-sends-money-home-to-fund-lorry-load-of-food
Podcast: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/volume-up/episode-6-peter-olsen-VCcPrEm52z4/
Key Takeaways:
0:00 Intro
1:47 Lauri shares a little bit of background about herself, where she came from to where she is now and her journey in founding The Teens Project
20:35 Peter shares his story, how he lives in Hong Kong but he’s from London, how he meet Lauri, why he does what he does and his journey to success
35:58 Lauri talks about why she feels that she had to go through what she had gone through as a teen to prepare her for what she is doing now
50:01 Lauri talks about the best way that people with the resources can also contribute in doing a noble thing to the world
51:06 Peter talks about why it is important to also help drug addicts and foster kids because most of them will become successful when helped
52:44 Lauri explains why we should not give up when faced with challenges, but let them inspire us to do well and be successful
Staying Present in a World of Distractions
Beth Shaha, Certified Life Coach and Founder of The Grounded Canary joins us again to share some great insights and wisdom around how to stay present in a world of distractions. Beth helps us to see that we have a choice to live in the present moment. Instead of worrying about the past or future, Beth guides us through finding freedom in living in the moment.
Guests Social Media Links:
Website: https://www.thegroundedcanary.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-shaha-4aa96095/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegroundedcanary/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegroundedcanary/
Email: beth@thegroundedcanary.com
Key Takeaways:
0:00 Intro
2:21 Beth talks about the importance of being present and mindful, some of the tricks to being present, and what happens when you’re in that zone
7:23 Beth talks about the power that our minds have and why it is important to be careful of what we feed our minds
9:55 Beth talks about how people can overcome the internal narrative that they have that there’s a storm in their lives and they can’t make it
12:39 Beth shares some of the tricks that you can use to bring yourself back to the present such as using the alarm clock in your phone
14:26 Beth also talks about how you can use technology to bring yourself back to the present such as Apple Watches
17:27 Beth talks about some of the simple things that we do at home that can help you be in the present
19:54 Beth talks about why appreciating and being grateful for the moment is a bonus to being aware and present
20:29 Beth also shares other things that people can do to help them be in the moment which she also does
24:05 Beth talks about the To-Do list, why it is important to have it, and how you should make your To-Do list
28:23 Beth shares her thoughts on what she feels are some of the things that would make your day fulfilling
30:00 Beth talks about some of the things that she includes in her To-Do list that makes her feel great at the end of the day
32:43 Beth explain why you should always look at things from different angles and not flee away when hard situations come your way
Quotes Mentioned:
“Our body is constantly working for us, not against us.”
“Our body wants what’s good for us.”
“Presence takes slowing down.”
“We can’t do anything about the present, but we can do something about the right now.”
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you’ve chosen it, always work with it, not against it, make it your friend, your ally, not your enemy, and this will miraculously transform your life.”
“Presence requires practice.”
“If not now, when?”
“Create a space that allows you to look at a situation rather than be in it.”
“An emotion only lasts 90 seconds, the only reason it would last longer is if you continue to re-engage.”
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“Create a space that allows you to look at a situation rather than be in it.”
“An emotion only lasts 90 seconds, the only reason it would last longer is if you continue to re-engage.”
Finding Your Cause
Mara Gubuan, the Founder of Equality League takes us on a journey of how she went from being a tax accountant to finding her purpose by starting multiple nonprofit agencies focused on advancing women’s rights and gender equality in sport. Mara shares with us the incredible work she is doing to help save Afghan women athletes and their families and how she supported a coalition of women to end a 40 year stadium ban for Iranian women. Mara inspires us with her passion and relentless fight to drive equality.
Guests Social Media Links:
Website: https://weareeql.org/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/equalityleagues
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mara-g-bb9a68132/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/equalityleagues/
Key Takeaways:
0:00 Intro
1:06 Mara explains the stresses of the current Afghan crisis and what EQL is doing to get involved
2:39 Mara gives examples of current success stories with refugees in sport that the EQL has been able to help with
5:33 Mara talks about the dangers these people face as high level athletes and how their accomplishments are now harming them
7:26 Mara details the start of the EQL and how it came to be and their original focus on Muslim female athletes
12:35 Mar talks about the struggles the EQL faces in terms of short staffing and needing help with the current Afghan crisis
16:32 Mara talks about how she really found cause during the quarantine when kids lost sports and tried to find a way to give that back to them
19:34 Mara talks about the EQL’s youth council and what they advocate and fight for
23:43 Mara details the toughest project she’s had to work on though EQL
26:53 Mara talks about a current evacuation of 100 people in conjunction with their partner FIFA
30:22 Mara explains a project and accomplishment she is most proud of
32:44 Mara talks about the EQL and where you can find out more information online
Resources Mentioned:
FIFA – FIFA is a non-profit organization that describes itself as an international governing body of association football, futsal, and beach soccer. It is the highest governing body of association football.
Equality League – Equality League is comprised of leaders from sport, human rights, and the media working to advance gender equality in and through support. We create and support campaigns to advance access, equality and safety in sport for women and girls worldwide.
Champion Women – Champion Women is a non-profit organization that provides legal advocacy for girls and women in sports.
Nancy Hogshead-Makar – Founded in 2014 by 3-time Olympic gold medalist, Nancy Hogshead-Makar, Champion Women is dedicated to advocating gender equality in sports for girls and women
Quotes Mentioned:
“One person in the right place with the right intentions can make a difference. And even what I tell the Youth Council is that if you are just authentic in what you’re attempting to do, people want to be part of your team where they want to help you, where they see their deficits.”
“It is very difficult to field message after message. You’re my only hope. When is it my turn? What happens next? And we’re working with a wonderful ally, but they can only do so much because are tremendous negotiations with different countries and the Taliban that are underway so we can only try to be supportive.”
“The FIBA hijab ban overturned, another recent victory was the overturn of the 40 year old ban on Iranian women. The 41 million Iranian women and girls were not allowed to enter stadiums to watch men’s football matches. And so you’re exactly right where I see that there is an egregious problem, we try to help solve it because we know with my powerful board and our community that we can reach the decision makers.”
The Grounded Canary
Beth Shaha, Certified Life Coach and Founder of The Grounded Canary shares with us her journey of how a mission trip to Romania changed her forever and led her down a path of leaving her career in the higher education industry to becoming a certified life coach. Beth provides great insights on how we can start being more curious about who we are and show compassion versus judgement. She encourages us to think about our internal narratives and change our perspective on how we approach our lives.
Guests Social Media Links:
Website: https://www.thegroundedcanary.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-shaha-4aa96095/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegroundedcanary/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thegroundedcanary/
Email: beth@thegroundedcanary.com
Key Takeaways:
0:00 Intro
0:55 Beth talks about the term wayfinder, what it means and the kind of things a wayfinder does
2:54 Beth shares her journey of where she came from, why she decided to pivot and build her company Grounded Canary and become a certified life coach
11:18 Beth also shares advice to people who haven’t found their purpose yet and those that have the purpose but are afraid to make the transition
14:02 Beth talks about how people put shackles on themselves without even noticing, what they need to do to realize the limiting beliefs they have and how they can change that
18:21 Beth talks about why people should be compassionate about themselves rather than be judgmental towards themselves
21:58 Beth talks about ways to realize that you’re in a bad situation, how to not beat yourself about it, and how to be curious to know what you can do to get out of it
25:58 Beth shares a technique you can use to help be able to pull yourself out of a situation that you are in and look at it from a different angle to help you solve the problem
29:32 Beth shares some resources that people can learn from more about some tools and tricks to use to better themselves
Books Mentioned:
The Work by Byron Katie: https://thework.com/
Walking Back The Cat: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/173806.Walking_Back_the_Cat
Shows Mentioned:
Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/
Positive Psychology: https://positivepsychology.com/
Quotes Mentioned:
“Where you are is a great place to start.”
“The power of story is inevitable.”
“Fear screams, intuition whispers.”
“Basic pausing and noticing is the first step towards finding your way and finding your purpose.”
“Limiting beliefs could be about anything and they’re beliefs that keep you shackled.”
“Knowledge is power, knowledge is truth, and knowledge helps us to see.”
“If we use our now to inform our then, it’s freedom.”
“Create a space that allows you to look at a situation rather than be in it.”
“An emotion only lasts 90 seconds, the only reason it would last longer is if you continue to re-engage.”
A Panel of Wellness Entrepreneurs
This panel of all female wellness entrepreneurs share why those chose to become wellness professionals and the pivotal moments that led them to eventually go out on their own. They speak about the importance of their networks, how they learned to trust their instincts, and the importance of self care and strengthening your mental fitness.
Show Notes:
0:00 Intro
3:53 Lauren talks about how she knew that she would become an entrepreneur at a young age, what drove her to be one, and how the journey has been for her
6:04 Elizabeth talks about her journey being a physical therapy and starting her own business and what drove her to be an entrepreneur
10:15 Julie also shares a little bit of background of how she knew that she wanted to be a dentist and own her business and how her journey has been
13:48 Julie also shares her experiences at school for the blind kids and the orphanages that she visited and what she did for the kids
15:43 Lauren talks about some of the things that she did that really made her feel that it was the moment to do something for herself
19:07 Lauren talks about some of the things that she was doing and putting out there as she was growing her business and how she got her building
21:14 Elizabeth also shares her story of how she got her office space and what happened that made her know that it was the right space
26:32 Julie talks about some of the things that were happening that were pushing her to grow to the next phase and heading to a leadership position more
32:16 Elizabeth talks about mental fitness and some of the most important things that you can do to be mentally fit and be successful
35:05 Elizabeth talks about the importance of knowing what you value the most and how she came to know what she valued the most
38:01 Julie talks about self-care and shares some of the things that she does to be mentally fit and have that self-care
42:05 Lauren also shares some of the things that she does to fuel her mental fitness muscle and improve on her self-care
45:33 Elizabeth talks about brain dumping, what it is and why she feels it’s important to the mental fitness of people
49:08 Lola shares some advice to people who are thinking to start their businesses and what they should do to fuel their mental fitness muscle
50:10 Julie also shares her advice to people who are starting out and want to be entrepreneurs and what they should do
51:31 Lauren also shares what she feels is one of the most important things that people wanting to be entrepreneurs should do
53:12 Elizabeth also shares her advice to people that want to be entrepreneurs so that they can be successful
Books Mentioned:
The Artist’s Way: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/615570.The_Artist_s_Way
Shows Mentioned:
https://www.pivotalmoments.org/
Craigslist: http://www.craigslist.org/
IKEA: http://www.ikea.com/
QuickBooks: https://quickbooks.intuit.com/global/
Quotes Mentioned:
“Life is short.”
“Everybody’s life is different, there’s no perfect kind of model to what it’s supposed to be.”
“Do right by the client always, especially in mental health.”
“There’s got to be some reason why you’re doing what you’re doing.”
“Everybody is going to have different values.”
“Creating moments of self-reflection to re-prioritize is an important skill to hold ourselves accountable to.”
“I can’t pour into your cup if mine is empty.”
“Your client is only going to be ever as healthy as you are, so you better be two steps ahead.”
“Don’t listen to those who are going to doubt you and tell you that you can’t do it”
“Courage is when you feel the fear, but you still do it.”
“Always learn from the failures.”
“You’ve got to know what works for you.”
Guests’ Social Media Links:
Lola Capps
Website: https://www.chrysalischiropractic.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinbylola/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lola-capps-108b5011a/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/livinbylola
Lauren Fischer:
Website: http://www.delraypsych.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauren-fisher-psyd-593a2b55/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Delraypsych/
Elizabeth Stroot:
Website: https://alexandriaphysicaltherapist.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDelRayPT
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedelraypt/?hl=en
Email: elizabeth@corewellness.net
Julie Tran:
Website: http://www.4delraysmiles.com/
Website: https://thegentledentist.net.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/julietrans/?hl=en
This panel of all female wellness entrepreneurs share why those chose to become wellness professionals and the pivotal moments that led them to eventually go out on their own.
They speak about the importance of their networks, how they learned to trust their instincts, and the importance of self care and strengthening your mental fitness.
Show Notes:
0:00 Intro
3:53 Lauren talks about how she knew that she would become an entrepreneur at a young age, what drove her to be one, and how the journey has been for her
6:04 Elizabeth talks about her journey being a physical therapy and starting her own business and what drove her to be an entrepreneur
10:15 Julie also shares a little bit of background of how she knew that she wanted to be a dentist and own her business and how her journey has been
13:48 Julie also shares her experiences at school for the blind kids and the orphanages that she visited and what she did for the kids
15:43 Lauren talks about some of the things that she did that really made her feel that it was the moment to do something for herself
19:07 Lauren talks about some of the things that she was doing and putting out there as she was growing her business and how she got her building
21:14 Elizabeth also shares her story of how she got her office space and what happened that made her know that it was the right space
26:32 Julie talks about some of the things that were happening that were pushing her to grow to the next phase and heading to a leadership position more
32:16 Elizabeth talks about mental fitness and some of the most important things that you can do to be mentally fit and be successful
35:05 Elizabeth talks about the importance of knowing what you value the most and how she came to know what she valued the most
38:01 Julie talks about self-care and shares some of the things that she does to be mentally fit and have that self-care
42:05 Lauren also shares some of the things that she does to fuel her mental fitness muscle and improve on her self-care
45:33 Elizabeth talks about brain dumping, what it is and why she feels it’s important to the mental fitness of people
49:08 Lola shares some advice to people who are thinking to start their businesses and what they should do to fuel their mental fitness muscle
50:10 Julie also shares her advice to people who are starting out and want to be entrepreneurs and what they should do
51:31 Lauren also shares what she feels is one of the most important things that people wanting to be entrepreneurs should do
53:12 Elizabeth also shares her advice to people that want to be entrepreneurs so that they can be successful
Books Mentioned:
The Artist’s Way: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/615570.The_Artist_s_Way
Shows Mentioned:
https://www.pivotalmoments.org/
Craigslist: http://www.craigslist.org/
IKEA: http://www.ikea.com/
QuickBooks: https://quickbooks.intuit.com/global/
Quotes Mentioned:
“Life is short.”
“Everybody’s life is different, there’s no perfect kind of model to what it’s supposed to be.”
“Do right by the client always, especially in mental health.”
“There’s got to be some reason why you’re doing what you’re doing.”
“Everybody is going to have different values.”
“Creating moments of self-reflection to re-prioritize is an important skill to hold ourselves accountable to.”
“I can’t pour into your cup if mine is empty.”
“Your client is only going to be ever as healthy as you are, so you better be two steps ahead.”
“Don’t listen to those who are going to doubt you and tell you that you can’t do it”
“Courage is when you feel the fear, but you still do it.”
“Always learn from the failures.”
“You’ve got to know what works for you.”
Guests’ Social Media Links:
Lola Capps
Website: https://www.chrysalischiropractic.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinbylola/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lola-capps-108b5011a/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/livinbylola
Lauren Fischer:
Website: http://www.delraypsych.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauren-fisher-psyd-593a2b55/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Delraypsych/
Elizabeth Stroot:
Website: https://alexandriaphysicaltherapist.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDelRayPT
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedelraypt/?hl=en
Email: elizabeth@corewellness.net
Julie Tran:
Website: http://www.4delraysmiles.com/
Website: https://thegentledentist.net.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/julietrans/?hl=en
